After almost 4 years in Toastmasters community, I came to conclusion that Toastmasters is the best dating platform in the market today. At least, you won’t be lied about their height and get “catfished” by fake person that never exist. Most important of all, you get to verify the gender of your preference. Not some Nigerian guys pretending to be pretty girls. Imagine Alan took Coco's Instagram photos to cheat-chat Gary for his money.
If you are serious in dating scene, Toastmasters is the cheapest, best value for money and safe avenue for you to do so. Of course, you get a chance to meet and greet the ladies or gentlemen that you are interested in. Maybe with a few other subsequent meeting…. And if everything goes well, you may walk the aisle together with him/her.
But not many people understand the ultimate truth of dating. Sales is like dating. Getting our dream job is like dating. Even building our wealth is like dating. We can't woo/chase/hunt the dating candidate we wished for.
WE CAN ONLY ATTRACT THEM.
As the saying, birds of the same feathers flock together, the same principle applies to any relationship attraction. The good news is everyone can attract the candidate that they wished for. It could be tough, but absolutely worthwhile. That’s self-improvement. Then, self-exposure. In short, it is marketing. Toastmasters provides both opportunities for improvement and exposure.
I’m deeply grateful for Friendship TMC for giving me this opportunity to lead during the term of 2020-2021. I am even more grateful I am succeeded by Mdm President Tan Geok Ean, who is highly competent, always put me up for exposure (for that matter, sometimes good, sometimes bad). At times she would ask me: “Alan, just use your charm to get it done.” Till today I do not know what she meant by “charm”, but I know I had to use my demon energy, at times, almost traded with the devil to achieve her request. With no reward.... Quite silly of me.
I must acknowledge my position as IPP did give me advantage and opportunities that I never thought possible. I believed that President Geok Ean would agree with me. We all learn and grow by assuming roles and responsibilities. By merely rolling our sleeves and get things done, we get to learn parts of ourselves that we did not know or even existed. That gave us a direction and become a powerful resource in our professional and personal life. For example, I could be very persuasive with my demonic demeanor, but I had a huge room for improvement on project management. If this is learned in our professional settings, the price could be high for our future career advancement.
Being an IPP gave me unfair advantage in exposure. “You are Alan, President of FTMC, right?” That recognition had led me business opportunities to conduct market research, working together with the fellow Toastmasters. I was blessed with opportunities to experience from different perspectives, such as the research need of SME is very different from corporates that I dealt with before. Most importantly, I harvested friendships that I believed would last for life.
All these would not be possible if I decided to just be a member of Toastmasters. The real growth demands energy. It requires time, energy and commitment from those who wants it. The opportunity within Toastmasters community is vast. But there is one condition. We need to play the game. Because the prize you want is only for those who in the game. Make your decision, roll up your sleeves and run the race.
As your insanely handsome incoming Area Director, described by Madam President Geok Ean, you have my commitment to assist you in times of need, as we grow and maintain our beloved Friendship TMC. The game is fun, only when you are in the game.
Coming back to the dating scenario. Ladies, if you want to seek gentlemen with high EQ, listen to their speeches and see their actions while they are in club. Rolling up their sleeves and take up leadership role is definitely a plus sign.
Gentlemen, I always believed man should choose their lady who are more intelligent than ourselves. Because science have proven that intelligence is inherited from mothers. How do we know if the intelligence of the ladies? From the speeches and evaluations they gave, and their dedication to their club.
Indeed, Toastmasters is the best dating platform as it offers opportunity to witness a person’s character. No more “catfish” and fake profiles. While we all here to polish our communication skills, these communication skills meaningless without meaningful message. Meaningful messages come from character. Character is built by commitment to be a leader.
Character bestows real power to communication skills.
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