The perfect match. We all yearn for it. We all wanted it. We crave for
someone that comes along one day and offers us an entire galaxy when we only
expected a single planet….. maybe more. Whether it come to career, business and
love.
In career, we seek earnestly to find purpose, meaning, easy work yet
challenging enough for us to grow. Earning a lot of money with single stroke of
action. Having a boss who are perfect in everyway: good looking, someone who
you can be proud of, wise, decisive and most important of all, protect us and
guide us in our way, for our progression. Happily ever after.
In business, we dream to find that one client, who gave us big contract,
multiple years agreement, No KPIs, payment on time. Perfect in every manner to
grow our business. We dream our business partners are perfect in everyway,
playing the role of CEO, managers and execs. Most important of all, business sail
in the calm sea. Happily ever after.
In our love life, we want our other half to be our intellectual equal,
trusted confidante, passionate lover, our best friend. On top of that, my
plumber, courier service, driver, electrician, Grab food driver, baby sitter, tutor, counselor...
Oh ya, always and must remember all the anniversaries including festive season.
We are asking a whole village from our partner, so that we can live happily
ever after.
So, is perfect match really exist? Does soul mate really exist? The one in the million that have perfect chemistry? Bring joy to each other because they see the best in each other? They are each others’ voice and strength?
I believe perfect match do exist. It just that they won’t appear to us in the perfect form of shiny white knight or beautiful fair princess. They often come in the imperfection form. They add values to each other life. They commit to each other. They work with each other. As time goes, they become fit to each other, made perfect in time and choice. Because none of us is perfect. All of us are work-in-progress. Being happy takes work. So happily ever after takes a lot of work.
Precisely because all of us are work-in-progress,
that the very reason Toastmasters was founded by Dr Ralph C Smedley in 1924.
But the biggest problem was that it was only reserved for men. I find it
utterly sexist. Why not allow the young ladies as members too? But after some thoughts, I
realized his decision to set the club only for young men was extremely wise,
even though it is not well accepted in today’s context.
The clue lies in official history
narrative: “Smedley saw a need for the men in the community to learn how to
speak, conduct meetings, plan programs and work on committees, and he wanted to
help them.” It hinted that young men then were in “bad shape”. If the young men
can’t lead, can’t speak and communicate well, how can they attract a decent
wife? If these young men can’t get their spouses, that will be disastrous to
human race. Plus, young men tend to have an inferiority complex. Dr Ralph did
not want to embarrass them in front of ladies. Thus, the decision of
the club to be exclusive for young men. Wise decision indeed and being sexist
appropriately. Disclaimer: Please, those were my hypothetical
deductive reasoning.
Ok, enough joke. Let’s get into
the meeting.
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