Our society often asked us to live through a prescription list:
"Earn that money and you will be happy."
"Get that car and have more girls."
"Get that job and you will be successful."
We are made believed that by following this list is the path to our happiness. If this is true, our life is nothing more than a soulless rat race. So, how do we ensure that we pursue a dream, a goal that really resonate with our soul? Maybe the answer lies in the human experience we wanted, growth we pursue and contribution we made to our world.
CS Lewis said: "You do not have a soul. You are a soul, what you have is a body."
If this is true, we are a soul here with human experience. I started to ask myself: What beautiful human experience that I wanted to feel in my life? I realized the most beautiful I ever experienced are falling in love, traveling to new places and cities, doing things that give me pulse of joy and happiness.
And the next question: If I were to have those beautiful human experience, who do I need to grow into? How do I want to grow, in terms of my skills, emotional fitness and abilities? How do I want to take care of my body so that I have great energy? How do I cultivate and grow my mind so that I can enjoy all the opportunities that life can offer? This has widen my perspective on choices available to me.
"If you want to be happy, learn to make people happy", said Dalai Lama. Similarly, we believed "Friends helping friends to succeed." If I believed we are in this planet Earth together, why not help each other grow? Help each other to have beautiful experiences. How do I want to give and contribute to my family, my community and the company I started? Maybe my contribution could be a blog post that I wrote to inspire others. It could be work of art, the speech, the conversations I had that beautifies the world. Contribution is the surest way to fulfillment, as Tony Robbins said. And I find it quite true.
Now, let us put these into practice. You are given a piece of paper. As I asked you series of questions according to the column, write down the first answer that comes to your mind. For each column, we will spend about 2 mins.
Now, the first column: What beautiful human experience that you want to experience in your life?
- How do you want to feel when there is no one else, except yourself?
- Think about your love life and friendship. Who do you want to wake up next to? Who do you want to be with? Who are your friends you care about and what do you do with them?
- Think about the connection with your parents, siblings and kids. Trips that you would love to have with your family. Disneyland? Beach vacation? Sky diving? White water rafting? Visiting different countries?
- How do I want to grow in terms of my health and fitness? Maybe running a marathon, having 6 packs like Brian, or as fit as Keny? What is your idea of health and fitness?
- How would I grow my intellectual and spiritual life? Maybe through the books, courses or even the people you speak to? Or maybe mediation and pilgrimage trip?
- What are the new skills you want to develop to help you truly live a rich life?
- How would you contribute through your career and that progress humanity, improving livelihood of others?
- How can you contribute through your creative life? Through your music, writing, artwork or even YouTube channel?
- Think about your contribution through your family and tribes. How much time you would like to spend with your kids? How are you going to raise your kids? How will you volunteer your time, talents and skills?
This is the first draft of your life blueprint. Through consistent practice of this exercise, you give yourself a chance to design your life that is truly extraordinary with clarity. With this clarity, that leads you to great power you can ever imagine.
I may not a leader with great execution tenacity. One thing for sure: I strive to be a leader that brings clarity in life of those who cross their path with me.
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