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Sunday, March 26, 2023

TME: 骨中骨,肉中肉

我左思右想,决定以华语分享我的祝福语。我的华文演讲还有很大的改善空间,请在座的来宾多多包涵。


MJ, 心里话说一句:还好我不是女人。如果我是女人,我一定厚脸皮的和你争VK。高帅聪明伶俐,责任心强,又非常努力, 这是必定爆发的潜力股。但,他的心只有你。那天, VK 约我吃饭。我知道 Speakers’ Valley 还刚刚起步,赚到的钱也不多。但是,当他知道你的手机坏了,他毫不犹豫的买了新的一台很高档款式。男人把他的爱意显明出来。你的需要,比他的需要更为重要。


VK, 你真的很幸运。有一位女人为你默默的耕耘着。她把她的时间,精力,青春, 义无反顾的奉献给你。在你低谷时期愿意和你一起度过,一起建立 Speakers’ Valley。女人在你低谷期的陪伴,就是最真诚的爱。正如《圣经》里面说到的:“那人独居不好,我们造个配偶来帮助他。”


《圣经》记载:神使男人睡, 骨, 人。前。说: 骨,人。 此,母,合, 


为什么是取肋骨,而不是其他的部位?如果从头骨造女人,那女人不是爬到男人的头上?如果从脚骨造女人,女人岂不是被踩到脚底下?以肋骨造女人也意味着男女平等,无分尊卑,也无地位高低之别。


更重要的是,寓意女人最重要的责任:守护男人最脆弱的部位 - 心。男人身体比较强壮,但内心是需要女人的呵护。这也是女人真正的软实力。一个成功男人的身边,必定有位守护他的心的女人。


男人说: 骨, 肉。这也寓意了男人最重要的责任:爱护最深爱的女人,因为她是我最重要的一部分。一个成功女人的身边,必定有位成全她的男人。男人和女人,本来就是互补互称的。


母,合,  VKMJ 的父母们,祝福他们,让他们离开。您们已经把他们养育成人,责任已尽。去好好享受你们的二人世界。他们当了20多年的电灯炮,够了。到时有了孙,有空就过去和孙儿玩玩。让他们自己照顾他们的孩子。


好了,我好像讲多了,该停了。VK MJ 我在此由衷祝福你们:“永结同心,永浴爱河“。 


在天愿做比翼鸟,在地愿做连理枝。天长地久有时尽,此爱绵绵无绝期。




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Tuesday, July 23, 2019

TME: Fight or Flight

Have you ever swim in open water? 

Swimming in open water is one of the most liberating experience. You come face-to-face with your biggest fear: death. You are open to all the elements of nature which can throw your training out of window, if you do not manage your fear and anxiety well. 

The moment I'm in the water, one part of me screamed out: 

"Get out of there, else you will die!" 

"I'm drowning!"

"The wave is strong. You are going down!"

But yet another small and resilient voice whispered: 

"Give it a shot. You had enough training."

"Keep calm and just keep swimming."

"Your son is waiting for you at the finish line."

I chose to fight instead of flight. I won again. Thank you my old friend, fear. I made me stronger.

I learned that open water swimming experience doesn't have to be just the absence of fear but it can be an enjoyable, confidence-boosting part of my training and racing. Most importantly, I learn how to manage my fear and anxiety. 

Fear is an emotion that is biologically 'ingrained' for the very survival of Homo sapiens - flight or fight when intimidated or threatened. Fear is highly associated with risks - probability of loss. More often than not, fear is taught and pass down from one generation to another.


To overcome this animal - fear, we need our weaponry. Recognize that we all have fear. And accept that fact and face it. The battle is half won.
  1. Shield of inner peace. We need to be at peace with ourselves when facing fear. You know who you are, what you do and why you are here. The inner peace will silence the intimidating voice by fear, which often is loud and distracting our mind. With that, you are able to focus.
  2. Breastplate of courage. It is the mental strength to overcome fear. Be prepare to have face-to-face sessions with fear. It will protect your heart from being disheartened in event we failed in early attempts.
  3. Helm of knowledge. It allows you to creatively use all the resources you had to combat fear. This need to be accumulated by counseling the wise ones, reading and adapting their advice into your own practice.
  4. Claymore of determination. Persistent, never give up, just give it another try. This is the only active weapon that I can think of. The rest are passive armors. Many times, fear cannot be slain in one single attempt. But as we go along trying to do that, we will realize that the onslaughts of fear are dwarfed into manageable level.


In face of fear, just do it, anyway.



29 May 2019, Nielsen Malaysia Toastmasters Club